Becoming True Sovereign Beings
New insights come as we move forward in our attempt to learn to love unconditionally. Some of these insights are hard to digest when we come to a realisation that we have been holding onto some negative way of being/thinking, but have been absolutely unaware of it due to it being a normal way of existing / surviving as children. I personally learned that the only way to survive was to keep quiet about all feelings, be helpful at all times and even more so when being unjustly blamed for things/incidents that occurred. This led to my thinking negatively about the person in question and never daring to express those feelings for risk of more punishment. The consequence of this is that when people seem to be expressing unusually strong emotional reactions to something my emotional body is recalling these earlier situations and the negative thought reactions like “this person is stupid, or this person is crazy, or this person is unpredictable, or this person needs therapy” and so on. I recall the name of a book with the title ‘you can’t afford the luxury of a negative thought’ and by golly is this a tall order to follow. However, this ‘tall order’, this ideal of being, is exactly where we are heading. Cobra was once asked how we should control our thoughts. I recall him saying that we should not control our thoughts, we have to allow them. However, when we become aware that we are sometimes thinking negatively about someone close to us while never expressing this openly we must realise that these thoughts are felt by the other person on some level and will infect the relationship until we change those thoughts by communicating in a better way with the person in question.