By Mariya M.

Late separations, sometimes called gray divorce, are increasing. Why do couples have failed marriage after a long life together? What can be done to avoid them?

The leading causes of failed marriage among married couples for the last few decades are the following:

They slowly but gradually drift apart

Late divorce rarely occurs because of an unexpected happening, says Stan Tatkin, the author of a popular publication known as Wired for Love. It is rather a slow procedure. A bit akin to an indestructible plate, which is dropped frequently, the well-known Stan Tatkin says. Micro-cracks appear, until reaching a grave threshold, which eventually causes the plate to shatter.

There are many reasons for this underlying frustration, but there are often of the same or similar themes. “One of the partners, the woman most of the time, feels that she has sacrificed herself too much,” says Stan Tatkin. “She has sometimes set aside her career to raise children. She feels the wear and tear of the relationship that was often one way.

Their age

Age is important. A big age difference that was not a problem at the beginning of the relationship can become burdensome later and cause failed marriage, he explains. The partners, arriving in mid-life, sometimes suddenly want to start from scratch.

According to him, a biological update of the brain occurs at certain moments of life, especially around the age of 15, then in the forties. Whenever it happens, we want to go back. Starting a relationship with a younger person allows some to satisfy that desire.

They are bored

According to an expert, boredom is another factor. Living 24 hours a day, seven days a week with the same person can, depending on the relationship, lead to boredom, the expert says. In some cases, people are no longer trying.

For example, your spouse may think you take your work and your leisure too seriously, but you are no longer that attentive and attractive partner.

Money problems

A different relationship to money and financial difficulties can also cause failed marriage. One of the partners may be the spending type who likes to enjoy life to the fullest, while the other may be the saving and getting by type.

Children’s upbringing, ordinary expenses, and the cost of higher education can end up making couples in debt and can cause strain on the relationship.


Sexual incompatibility can get worse and bring about a failed marriage, says Jessica O’Reilly. Hormonal changes that occur with age can cause significant fluctuations in libido. Even if the differences in desire are felt at any age, they sometimes worsen with time.

Couples on a slippery slope can learn from these leading causes of failed marriage and recover with these five tips:

Make your relationship a priority

You are supposed to be able to rely on each other in difficult circumstances. You need to protect not only yourself but each other – both in public and in private, without ever putting your relationship at risk. In addition, couples need to ask themselves why they are together.

Constantly reminding yourself of what united you can be a simple yet powerful technique.

Take care of yourself

Weight gain, lack of exercise and a neglected lifestyle suggest to your partner that you don’t care anymore about him or her and can result in failed marriage. The solution: go on a diet and put yourself back into sports or another physical activity that you enjoy.

Assume your share of responsibility

Before giving up your marriage, look in the mirror. Maybe the problem is right there. If so, an expert suggests putting some spice back into your life to avoid failed marriage. Prepare a trip together, create a new business, learn a language together or develop a new skill, all activities that spark new conversations and can rekindle passion.

Talk freely about your sexuality

Couples who discuss their sexual desires, variations in their desire, and their vulnerabilities can overcome their differences. Communication is essential. As your body changes, you need to know what makes you feel good physically and emotionally to maintain your sexuality.

Discuss everything openly and honestly

And again, never forget to discuss everything else that can cause failed marriage, insists an expert. This is the only way to solve your problems. Of course, you don’t want your marriage to fail, right? You truly want it to last a lifetime.

However, if any of the above things are too often part of your life, you may be on a dangerous path in your relationship.

Reflect on any previous relationships

It can be very useful to think about negative patterns in any of your previous relationships or marriages to avoid repeating them in your current relationship. For example, if you did not feel valued, you could use that information to find out how you could have made your contribution.

Do you tend to underestimate yourself? Did you tell your former partner exactly how to show his appreciation? There could have been any number of things that contributed. Using this approach, you can take action to prevent it from happening in your current marriage.



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  1. The problem is when they first got married they loved each other ” But ” were never in love with each other they got married just for the sake of it, its just like me I still love my wife but I am not in love with her and never was you see there’s love and then there’s unconditional true real love and a lot of people out there are denying them self’s of the real love that’s been destined for them when you meet the right one the Universe will guide you to them, But we all have Karma debts to repay, once you realise you don’t love that person any more or that person does not love you end that relationship straight away because that Karma contract has been for filled I went from meeting my twin flame to realising what true love was then confronted my wife and told her the truth what I felt I told her our path has come to an end then with the twin doing her job of awaking me to what I was really missing and denying myself my twin open my heart to true emotional felling then she did the runner 9 weeks after my soul mate appeared on the scean and that’s one of the main reason twin flame come into your life and then it dawn on me how many married couples out there that love each other but are not in love with each other and are denying themselves one of the most beautiful of feeling real true love for some one else And just in case you might be thinking What does he know let me tell you I fell deeply in love with my twin flame and she fell deeply in love with me our relation ship lasted 9 months ant not one kiss was taken
    She was married with a little girl and I was married with a little boy she was born on the 9th of January I was born on the 9th of January and the synchronicity between us was on steroids. I decide I was not going to stay in a married relation ship anymore because
    If it’s out there and it’s destined to be then I will find it and the thing is I did 9 weeks later
    with my soul mate covered from head to toe with Synchronicity, there is no such a thing as coincidence everything is planned for you, you are being watched and guided all the time and I as happy as pigs in S—–T so once your contract as finished with your karmic partner, get out because your next relation ship just around the corner don’t stay in it be cause you are cheating your self and also your partner form what’s around the corner you have to be strong and love yourself and be happy with your self


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