Signs of a Psychic Vampire and How to Deal with Them

A psychic vampire is someone who feeds off the energy of others. They are often negative and self-pitying and spending time with them leaves us exhausted.

What is a psychic vampire?

Most of us have a psychic vampire in our lives. They moan and complain and yet, nothing we say or do seems to shift them out of their negative mindset. These kinds of people always have a problem they need help with and they always blame everyone else for their situation. They can be self-pitying, negative and sometimes nasty.

Psychic vampires will do pretty much anything to get attention because this attention and energy is what feeds them. Unfortunately, psychic vampires have not learned to take care of themselves, be responsible for their own actions and meet their own needs. This means they are constantly looking to others to make them feel better and fix their problems.

Of course, no one can fix someone else’s problems. We all have to learn to deal with our own responsibilities and issues. But the psychic vampire gets stuck in a negative cycle of needing the attention of others to feel better about themselves.

How can we protect ourselves from psychic vampires?

Ideally, we would avoid these kinds of people like the plague. However, we can’t always cut them out of our lives, nor would we necessarily want to. When we have a family member, boss, colleague who is a psychic vampire, we can’t avoid spending time with them. There may also be people in our lives who have this trait but also have positive aspects that we love. In this case, we must learn to deal with the vampire energy without being sucked dry. Additionally, people can sometimes, understandably, get very needy when they are going through a difficult time in their lives. We want to be able to support them without exhausting ourselves.

Unfortunately, psychic vampires can easily spot who will give them the most attention. They are drawn to kind, compassionate, empathetic and generous people. If you are this kind of person, you may find that you have many energy vampires in your life. Because you are compassionate, you don’t want to cut these people out of your life. You want to help them. But unfortunately, no amount of compassion will be enough for these kinds of people and if allowed, they will suck you dry. They may try to make you feel sorry for them or they may try to guilt trip you into spending time with them. They can be very manipulative and play on your good nature.

So, it is important to set up some healthy boundaries to prevent energy vampires from taking all your time and energy. This way you will be able to keep enough for yourself to use towards your dreams and goals or just for fun.

Here are five ways to set up healthy boundaries so we can treat psychic vampires with compassion without getting drained by them.

1. Limit time spent with psychic vampires

Firstly, and most obviously, we might need to limit the amount of time we spend with energy vampires wherever possible. If you have a particularly needy friend or colleague, you might limit your interactions with them to, perhaps, one phone call or meeting a week. Also, it’s worth having an end to the interaction planned, such as another meeting or activity that you have to leave to attend.

3. Choose the activities carefully

In addition to limiting time spent with a vampire, choosing the right activity can make a difference. Staying indoors with them with a film and a bottle of wine might be a bad choice as they will have you captive. This means they can command your attention and there is little you can do to prevent them from sucking your energy dry. Choosing a more interactive activity, or meeting up in a group will make it less easily for them to monopolize your attention.

3. Practice Self-Care

After spending time with an energy vampire you will need time to recoup your energy. If you know you will have to spend time with a draining person, try to plan a fun or relaxing activity for afterward. Taking time to look after yourself and practicing self-compassion is especially important if you have to spend a lot of time with one, or many, energy vampires.

4. Protect your energy

When you know you will be spending time with an energy vampire, you must be clear about how much energy you are prepared to share. As well as limiting time spent with them, be clear about your own worth and value. Often psychic vampires target us because they are aware that we do not value ourselves as highly as we should. When you think about the things you want to do with your own energy, such as projects hobbies, goals and dreams, you realize that you don’t want to squander that energy on someone who is not going to make good use of it. If your support isn’t used wisely or appreciated, then it has been wasted.

You might also like to think of yourself surrounded by a force-field that protects you from the energy vampire. Refusing to give more energy is not selfish. In fact, giving an energy vampire too much actually prevents them from learning to take care of themselves.

5. Check you are not becoming a psychic vampire yourself.

Unfortunately, moods are catching. After spending time with an energy vampire, you will be emotionally drained and may feel negative and cranky yourself. Be careful that the negative mood you have caught does not mean you slip into being an energy vampire yourself. You might notice that after you have spent time with a difficult colleague, you go home and snap at your partner or housemate. Try to avoid this by taking some time to restore your energy by doing something fun or relaxing, or perhaps meditating or taking a walk in nature. This way, you won’t need to suck energy from someone else.

Closing thoughts

Using the above strategies can help us to cope with spending time with psychic vampires. However, the best way to avoid being a victim of a psychic vampire is to take care of ourselves. When we are strong and have good self-esteem, energy vampires will realize we are not victims they can prey on. They will then tend to leave us alone. This can actually transform our relationship with psychic vampires into ones that are much healthier for us and the vampire.

 

Source: http://www.learning-mind.com/psychic-vampire/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+LearningMind+%28Learning+Mind+email%29

1 thought on “Signs of a Psychic Vampire and How to Deal with Them

  1. I guess this subject of psychic vampirism is a familiar subject to many of us, who are in touch spiritual development or awakening, which is the same, I guess, most of the time. I hope. I’ve described the following
    in another response here, in different words, but I’ve experienced a love-hate psychic vampire in my life on distance, in the virtual world and gradually also in the astral planes. This forced me to pay attention, I had no choice!

    This emotional rollercoaster or – astral trapeze performance has taught me valuable lessons and insights in who I am and was, awakening to past life memories and connecting many dots in experiences throughout my life. A 21st century “initiation crash course” on an adventurous path of making dreams come true by igniting the light within.

    This life transforming experience continues to teach me deeper layers of insight and wisdom, in sync with a gradual deeper awakening, finding the trigger and the source of my inner magnet to attract, while coming from an old habit mixed with sentiments of “those were the days my friend….” walking along a memory lane that seems to have no end, which is a never-ever-getting-there of my own making, if you get my drift..

    When we can see a psychic vampire for what it/he/she really is and not invest energy in it through resistence and fear, or in the idea that we need to DO something about it, changing it, pushing it away, the energy cords become inflated and pale. Move your vibration out of phase and no effort is needed, no loss of energy.

    When we can truly choose to take care of ourselves, without strings attached to conditions outside of us, or attachments to sentiments which often are in close encounters with illusions, our vibration changes and this shift of frequency causes the vampiric and astral connection to go out of phase.

    All the games that sound like “Oh but first he or she has to… or this or that has to happen first, before I….” the creation of conditions in the outside world in order to start the inner work, are lost games.

    Once we can detach ourselves in a positive way, a psychic vampire can’t “find” resonance. For it will seek the old familiar routine always. The way it always has worked is the chosen way. Vampires are creatures of habit and you can use that against them, you see?

    Losing resonance with a psychic vampire is like when turning the little wheel of an old fashioned radio, where the bandwidths are displayed, L-M-FM and where, while turning that little wheel, you can hear the fading away of a radio-sender from a foreign country. The energy waves are going out of phase, in other words.

    When a psychic vampire is deliberately seeking you out and there’s disturbance on all levels, there’s often an old program existing between that person or astral being and you. There’s a story to read, information to gain that may turn the bitterness into a healing potion. To find the present in the core that may be wrapped in veils manipulations and illusions, is the medicine that heals the disbalance and restores autonomy.

    I guess all these descriptions I’ve found coming up, show how darkness as much as light has a transformational quality on our 3D planet Earth and it’s also showing the nature of duality consciousness.
    Writing this has clarified a few issues to me, thank you for inspiring me to leave this comment here.
    I hope it’s helpful for those of you who need to deal with psychic vampires in their lives.

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