What a woman’s body goes through during pregnancy is tremendous.
And yet, the “miracle of birth” doesn’t always feel so miraculous when you’re talking stretch marks, vomit, and hemorrhoids. The promise of new life at the culmination of this journey is enough to keep us procreating, but no woman in the history of the world ever said: “You know what would be fun to do today? Pushing an oven-stuffer roaster through my lady parts.”
When the human body goes through something so momentous, it needs and deserves support. While not as popular to many in the west, gemstones and crystals have been used for centuries by shamans, healers, and midwifes to help women through this magical time. But which gemstone is best for you?
We tapped into The Book of Stones: Who They Are and What They Teach by Robert Simmons and Naisha Ahsian to get some insight.
Amethyst is best for women who above all desire protection and positivity. This beautiful purple stone has been described through history as a “beacon of light.” It purifies and protects its wearer, and shields against negative energy. As an Air element, it emits a calm and fluid frequency, and has long been used to help relieve physical and emotional pain. This is a lovely stone to wear as a birthing necklace, and can also be held as a tumble stone. For added support, place Amethyst geodes around your birthing space to help create a soothing environment of positivity and protection.
2. Black Onyx
Black Onyx is best for women who above all desire strength and grounding. Black Onyx emanates vitality and inner strength, and allows one to maintain a cool head during heated situations. It quells anxiety and promotes high levels of focus and discipline, therefore providing a deep sense of satisfaction when the task is done. This stone condenses excessive energies, which is good for those with nervous dispositions, and encourages self-control. Above all, Black Onyx helps to focus energy into a positive source. It can be worn or held as a source of strength during childbirth.
Carnelian is best for women who above all desire courage and protection from fear. Carnelian is a strong Fire stone, and as such, instills great willpower and motivation in its wearer. It is a very energetic stone, which translates to its wearer, fortifying them in times of physical and emotional stress. Carnelian helps expecting mothers by protecting against negative emotions and reviving self-esteem during trying times. It connects strongly with the solar plexus, and is best worn as a necklace, as this allows it to connect directly to the the third chakra.
Chrysocolla is best for women who above all desire peace and empowerment. This greenish-blue Water stone connects with the heart chakra, and is excellent for more empathic, sensitive souls, who are prone to anxiety or fear-based worry. Chrysocolla connects with and celebrates the feminine power within, and brings peace and serenity during times of constant flux when the future is uncertain. It relaxes the mind and is said to ease childbirth. When worn or held, this lovely stone emits peace and quiet strength, reminding its recipient of the ancient power she possesses as her birthright.
Larimar is best for women who above all desire soothing and motivation. This is a rare stone made up of both Fire and Water elements — dichotomous elements that typically cancel each other out. Because of this strong duality, Larimar is a unique and potent stone for expecting mothers, as it promotes a powerful blend of water-like serenity and fire-based determination.
Larimar brings confidence and peace, allowing a woman to feel confident of her own strength, and to relax. It soothes hot tempers and aids in communication. Larimar is also excellent throughout the pregnancy, as well as post-partum. It has been used to alleviate post-partum depression, and also relieves stress, high blood pressure, and other excessive Fire element ailments, such as flu, fever, and sore throat. It is best when worn around the throat, as Larimar connects solely with the throat chakra.
Malachite is best for women who above all desire protection from negative energies and a healed heart. This green and white Fire stone serves as a powerful cleanser for hurtful emotions and past trauma. It is ideal for cutting through pain and fog to make conscious, clear-headed choices. It also enhances leadership through a strong yang energy. Malachite supports fast healing and reduces inflammation and pain. It is most commonly used holistically to ease ailments of the stomach. In jewelry, it combines well with Tiger’s Eye to enhance its physically energetic and protective qualities.
Peridot is best for women who above all desire a sense of well-being and prosperity. This stone has been described by Robert Simmons as “little green nuggets of positive power.” It invokes warmth, like sunshine soaking into your soul, and creates a calm landscape of love and will to fulfill the heart’s desire. Peridot honours the universal love of abundance, and allows one to accept success, prosperity, and aid that is offered without guilt. As such, this stone is excellent for women who find it difficult to ask for and accept help in times of need.
8. Quartz Crystal
Quartz Crystal is best for women who above all desire amplification of specific intentions, and healing. Quartz is the most well-known crystal, as it resonates with all chakras, and has the unique characteristic of being programmable to suit individual needs. It works on all energetic levels, and as such, is well suited to healing and prayer. This stone is like a rear-view mirror: whatever is in it will appear larger. This means it can amplify emotions and the energy of other crystals, and encourage clarity of situations.
Quartz is excellent for expecting mothers who have very specific desires for their pregnancy and birth, as it acts as a vessel that can be filled and “programmed” to remember certain environments, intentions, and energies. A simple way to program quartz is by taking it to a peaceful place, holding it in hand, and meditating on one’s intentions. Visualize these desires: how will they look? Where will you be? How will you feel? How will you act? What will happen? Map it all out like a movie in your head. Thoughts have frequency, and these frequencies will transmit to the crystal, so that when it is time to be held again, the intentions set upon it will arise.
9. Rose Quartz
Rose Quartz is best for women who above all desire unconditional love and emotional balance. This stone connects very strongly with the heart chakra, allowing one to release stress, pain, and old wounds of mistrust or loss. It is a feminine, soothing stone that above all promotes love, both for others and the self. Because it helps soothe and lift the heart, this stone can be helpful for those who have experienced the tragic loss of a child or partner.
Rose Quartz is humble, yet powerful, and readies one for the full expression of love. It is best when worn on the body throughout pregnancy and labour, and can fill the home with gentle, loving energy when placed around the room. Robert Simmons says that “for one’s meditation or sleeping room, a Rose Quartz in every corner is not overdoing it.” Set your intention for love and acceptance by adorning yourself and your birth space with this gentle stone.
Seraphinite is best for women who above all desire healing. This deep green stone with shimmering white and silver patterns evokes memories of walking through a peaceful forest. Seraphinite’s name comes from the high order of angels “Seraphim,” due to its ability to bring angelic light and high-frequency energy into the body.
What makes this stone so lovely is that it fills not just the body, but the entire aura of the wearer with a gentle yet powerful vibration that reaches not only the wearer, but also those around her, including midwifes, partners, and even that bundle of joy! Seraphinite evokes a calm serenity of wholeness, and is the premier stone of healing in this time, especially known to facilitate cellular regeneration. It is beautiful when held or worn.
When choosing a stone for a specific intention, it’s important to remember that when all is said and done, the gemstone that’s right for you is the one your heart calls to. Look at pictures and listen to your feminine intuition. It’s so much wiser than we give it credit for. The beautiful part about using gemstones as support during momentous occasions is that you don’t have to believe that they are healing or magical, or even more than ornamental. Simply by choosing a stone that resonates with you and dedicating your intention upon it, you can help create the future you desire every time you pick it up.